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Because pornography use can become compulsive and out of control, it can be difficult to determine whether or not you have a problem. Being honest with yourself is step one. If you find yourself emotionally dependent on viewing pornography to achieve pleasure and happiness, you may be developing an unhealthy compulsion. Continuing to view pornography despite the negative consequences it’s having on your daily life is another clear sign that you’re facing an addiction.

Now that you know pornography is a problem, it’s time for an intervention. Here we’ll offer strategies, techniques, and lifestyle changes that can help you get over pornography addiction and start living a more productive and purposeful life.

1. Keep a Journal and Identify Your Triggers
   The best way to identify the severity and root cause of your addiction is to keep a journal. Starting today, write down every time you have the urge to watch pornography, including the day, time, and where you are when the urge strikes. Now, document what triggers may have prompted this urge. Lastly, make note of how you reacted to this urge. Did you succumb to the impulse or find a way to move past these feelings?

The more information you write down, the better. Now, you can take an objective look at what’s driving your addiction, what your triggers are, and what techniques work best for overcoming these moments of weakness.

2. Place Blockers on Your Electronic Devices
   Placing porn blockers and controls on your computer, smartphone, and tablet, aren’t a sure-fire way to beat porn addiction but they can help. It’s important not to rely on these blockers or safety measures to beat your addiction for you. The old saying goes, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way”. That means if you really want to watch pornography, you’ll figure out a way around these safeguards.

Instead, placing content blockers on your devices will help facilitate your recovery. It will help eliminate opportunity. Think of it like a recovering alcoholic not keeping alcohol in the house. This won’t prevent them from going out to the store and buying more or having a drink at the local bar, but it will make getting their hands on a drink much more difficult. Having these blockers in place will force you to stop and think about your actions before acting on impulse.

3. Accept Support from Others
   Addiction recovery of any kind is often a team effort. Most pornography addicts are hesitant to let friends and loved ones know about their addiction or their efforts to quit. This is due to feelings of shame, guilt, and embarrassment. The good news is, there are several therapy and support group options available for pornography addicts based on their needs and comfort level.

Read more at endsexualexploitation.org

Unul dintre cele mai bizare materiale pe care le-am citit ieri. Este un studiu sponsorizat de UNICEF privind „drepturile copiilor în era digitală și accesul la internet”.
Link: https://www.unicef.org/media/97461/file/Digital%20Age%20Assurance%20Tools%20and%20Children%E2%80%99s%20Rights%20Online%20across%20the%20Globe.pdf

Lung de peste 50 de pagini, articolul încearcă să ne convingă, pe baza unor studii occidentale (doar nu din țările sărace!) că vizualizarea pornografiei ar fi un lucru bun pentru copiii. Conform autorului, 3% din copiii care vizualizează pornografie în Lituania declară că sunt „fericiți” ca urmare a vizualizării pornografiei, și un procent de 38% simt la fel în Spania. În concluzie, provoacă autorul, de ce să restricționăm accesul copiilor la pornografie online?

Iată paragraful șocant: „From a rights perspective, extreme care would be needed to avoid excluding children from sexual and reproductive health information online: sexuality education, including resources for LGBTQ education, may be categorized as pornography in some contexts. Finally, it is questionable whether age assurances tools are an appropriate response to pornography that depicts extreme violence or violence against women, both of which can arguably be considered harmful for viewers of all ages”.

Tradus, „Din perspectiva drepturilor omului, o foarte mare grijă trebuie avută pentru a preveni excluderea copiilor de la accesarea informațiilor de pe internet privind sănătatea sexuală și reproductivă: educația sexuală, inclusiv resurse pentru educația LGBT, care pot fi etichetate pornografie în anumite contexte. Este îndoielnic că restricțiile motivate de vârstă constituie un răspuns potrivit la adresa pornografiei care portretizează violența și violența împotriva femeilor, ambele fiind de fapt considerate ca vătămătoare pentru toate categoriile de vârstă”.

Retoric întreb: la ce mai folosește UNICEF? Cei care încă mai cred în necesitatea educației sexuale în școlile României au fost atenționați din nou.

Dr. Peter Costea
Presedinte Alianța Familiilor din România

By Doug Issichopoulos

From a predator to a protector

A few years ago, one of my pastors told me, “Men tend to become one of two things: a predator of women or a protector of women.” Again and again, I’ve seen this statement proved right — not just in others’ lives but also in my own life. Catalyzed by porn and masturbation, I preyed on women almost every day for years. Starting more than ten years ago, however, the trajectory of my life changed so drastically that now I strive to protect them.

It didn’t happen all at once. But it got started much faster than I ever would have guessed, after just 40 days. In more than a decade of freedom since then, this passion has grown to the degree that I would never have thought possible.

By Kristen Jenson and Marilyn Evans

By default, every device that connects kids to the internet also connects kids to porn. It’s that simple —and it’s that infuriating! To keep kids safe in the digital age, parents need to stay one step ahead of trends and know exactly what they are up against.

In this post we’ll highlight 9 major culprits that should be on every parent’s radar in 2018!

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Interview by ANA MARIE COX

In 2015, you produced a documentary about young pornography performers, ‘‘Hot Girls Wanted,’’ that was eventually turned into a new Netflix documentary series. But in 2013, you wrote a pretty strident essay in Glamour against the ‘‘pornification’’ of everything, where you recount using the hashtag #stopactinglikewhores, in regard to the mainstreaming of, say, V-strings and stripper poles. What changed? I was impulsive. Being old isn’t a good excuse for it, but using the word ‘‘whore’’ was absolutely not appropriate. I didn’t even know what ‘‘slut shaming’’ meant at the time, and I have educated myself. But that was sort of the beginning of my relationship with all this work — I wanted to see if my feelings had any validity in the real world, or if I was just being close-minded. Read more