Cum să nu lupți cu pornografia

Cum să nu lupți cu pornografia

Să începem cu începutul. Vrei cu adevărat să lupți împotriva pornografiei?

Mulți dintre cei care „se luptă” vor de fapt să fie încredințați de dragostea lui Dumnezeu pentru ei în timp ce încă au o relație „complicată” cu pornografia. La fel ca mulți soți ce trăiesc în relații abuzive, ei urăsc pornografia, dar nu-și pot imagina viața fără ea. Urăsc ceea ce le face, dar iubesc ceea ce le oferă: un moment de evadare, o falsă senzație de valoare, un sentiment nesatisfăcător de iubire. Dar după ce acestea dispar, apare vinovăția. Realizează că au fost dezumanizați. Dorind plăcere, se întorc la persoana iubită, din nou și din nou.

Dacă situația asta te descrie, trebuie mai întâi să realizezi că „lupta” ta nu este deloc o luptă. Trebuie să recunoști că participi la o infidelitate flagrantă. Ești căsătorit, dar îți scoți inelul pentru un moment de răsfăț. Ești unit cu Cristos, dar te unești totodată cu prostituate. Permite-mi să te asigur că Mirele tău gelos nu va tolera mult timp ca altcineva să-ți fure afecțiunea. Până când acest lucru nu este înțeles cu adevărat, orice abordare a luptei împotriva păcatului va fi ignorată complet.

Citeste mai mult: edictumdei.org/cum-sa-nu-lupti-cu-pornografia/

5 Tips to Overcome Compulsive Pornography Use

Because pornography use can become compulsive and out of control, it can be difficult to determine whether or not you have a problem. Being honest with yourself is step one. If you find yourself emotionally dependent on viewing pornography to achieve pleasure and happiness, you may be developing an unhealthy compulsion. Continuing to view pornography despite the negative consequences it’s having on your daily life is another clear sign that you’re facing an addiction.

Now that you know pornography is a problem, it’s time for an intervention. Here we’ll offer strategies, techniques, and lifestyle changes that can help you get over pornography addiction and start living a more productive and purposeful life.

  1. Keep a Journal and Identify Your Triggers
    The best way to identify the severity and root cause of your addiction is to keep a journal. Starting today, write down every time you have the urge to watch pornography, including the day, time, and where you are when the urge strikes. Now, document what triggers may have prompted this urge. Lastly, make note of how you reacted to this urge. Did you succumb to the impulse or find a way to move past these feelings?

The more information you write down, the better. Now, you can take an objective look at what’s driving your addiction, what your triggers are, and what techniques work best for overcoming these moments of weakness.

  1. Place Blockers on Your Electronic Devices
    Placing porn blockers and controls on your computer, smartphone, and tablet, aren’t a sure-fire way to beat porn addiction but they can help. It’s important not to rely on these blockers or safety measures to beat your addiction for you. The old saying goes, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way”. That means if you really want to watch pornography, you’ll figure out a way around these safeguards.

Instead, placing content blockers on your devices will help facilitate your recovery. It will help eliminate opportunity. Think of it like a recovering alcoholic not keeping alcohol in the house. This won’t prevent them from going out to the store and buying more or having a drink at the local bar, but it will make getting their hands on a drink much more difficult. Having these blockers in place will force you to stop and think about your actions before acting on impulse.

  1. Accept Support from Others
    Addiction recovery of any kind is often a team effort. Most pornography addicts are hesitant to let friends and loved ones know about their addiction or their efforts to quit. This is due to feelings of shame, guilt, and embarrassment. The good news is, there are several therapy and support group options available for pornography addicts based on their needs and comfort level.

Read more at endsexualexploitation.org

UNICEF: Pornografia este „benefică” pentru copii

Unul dintre cele mai bizare materiale pe care le-am citit ieri. Este un studiu sponsorizat de UNICEF privind „drepturile copiilor în era digitală și accesul la internet”.
Link: https://www.unicef.org/media/97461/file/Digital%20Age%20Assurance%20Tools%20and%20Children%E2%80%99s%20Rights%20Online%20across%20the%20Globe.pdf

Lung de peste 50 de pagini, articolul încearcă să ne convingă, pe baza unor studii occidentale (doar nu din țările sărace!) că vizualizarea pornografiei ar fi un lucru bun pentru copiii. Conform autorului, 3% din copiii care vizualizează pornografie în Lituania declară că sunt „fericiți” ca urmare a vizualizării pornografiei, și un procent de 38% simt la fel în Spania. În concluzie, provoacă autorul, de ce să restricționăm accesul copiilor la pornografie online?

Iată paragraful șocant: „From a rights perspective, extreme care would be needed to avoid excluding children from sexual and reproductive health information online: sexuality education, including resources for LGBTQ education, may be categorized as pornography in some contexts. Finally, it is questionable whether age assurances tools are an appropriate response to pornography that depicts extreme violence or violence against women, both of which can arguably be considered harmful for viewers of all ages”.

Tradus, „Din perspectiva drepturilor omului, o foarte mare grijă trebuie avută pentru a preveni excluderea copiilor de la accesarea informațiilor de pe internet privind sănătatea sexuală și reproductivă: educația sexuală, inclusiv resurse pentru educația LGBT, care pot fi etichetate pornografie în anumite contexte. Este îndoielnic că restricțiile motivate de vârstă constituie un răspuns potrivit la adresa pornografiei care portretizează violența și violența împotriva femeilor, ambele fiind de fapt considerate ca vătămătoare pentru toate categoriile de vârstă”.

Retoric întreb: la ce mai folosește UNICEF? Cei care încă mai cred în necesitatea educației sexuale în școlile României au fost atenționați din nou.

Dr. Peter Costea
Presedinte Alianța Familiilor din România

What Happens After 10 Years of No Porn?

By Doug Issichopoulos

From a predator to a protector

A few years ago, one of my pastors told me, “Men tend to become one of two things: a predator of women or a protector of women.” Again and again, I’ve seen this statement proved right — not just in others’ lives but also in my own life. Catalyzed by porn and masturbation, I preyed on women almost every day for years. Starting more than ten years ago, however, the trajectory of my life changed so drastically that now I strive to protect them.

It didn’t happen all at once. But it got started much faster than I ever would have guessed, after just 40 days. In more than a decade of freedom since then, this passion has grown to the degree that I would never have thought possible.

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Catholic Bishops: Pornography harms families and communities

Catholic Bishops: Pornography harms families and communities

By Michael W. Chapman

(CNSNews) – The U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB) recently sent a letter to Attorney General William Barr urging him „to confront the ongoing harms wrought by the pornography industry and to protect its victims” through vigorous enforcement of obscenity laws and investigation of porn producers.

The bishops stressed in their Apr. 30 letter that „pornography harms families and communities,” and „when viewed by the young, it provides a terrible model and expectation of how persons should treat each other, potentially leading to coercion or violence.”

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How Porn Fuels Sex Trafficking

How Porn Fuels Sex Trafficking

In a worldview of slavery, society generally agrees that it is inhumane and degrading, and most people are astonished that there have been times in history where slavery was accepted as normal and acceptable. Somehow, still, many people are accepting of a form of modern-day slavery: human sex trafficking. And while many people claim to be opposed to human sex trafficking, what many don’t know is that the demand for human sex trafficking is fueled by pornography and the porn industry.

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First Trans Person to Obtain Legal ‘Non-Binary’ Sex Status Changes Back to Birth Sex

By Tyler O’Neil

This month, the first person to obtain a legal „non-binary” sex designation has successfully petitioned the court originally responsible for his „non-binary” status to order that the sex on his birth certificate be restored to „male.” In documents exclusively provided to PJ Media, James Shupe’s petition described his „non-binary” designation as a „psychologically harmful legal fiction.” He told PJ Media he hopes this decision will prevent a woman currently seeking „non-binary” recognition from following the same lies. Read more

Pornography Is Worse than Feminism

By Samuel D. James

I understand what Ben Domenech is trying to say in his eulogy for Hugh Hefner, but I’m afraid he has strained out the gnat and swallowed the rabbit. Domenech sees in Hefner’s legacy a nostalgia that conservatives can appreciate—a nostalgia for a time when women were women, and men loved women because they were women. Domenech is correct that the unblushing amorousness of Playboy contrasts with our contemporary “sexless,” politicized public square. But he misses the fact that pornography, which Hefner did not invent but did commodify once and for all, is an agent of our current crisis. Read more

Keep Kids Safe: 9 Ways Porn and Predators will Target Kids in 2018

By Kristen Jenson and Marilyn Evans

By default, every device that connects kids to the internet also connects kids to porn. It’s that simple —and it’s that infuriating! To keep kids safe in the digital age, parents need to stay one step ahead of trends and know exactly what they are up against.

In this post we’ll highlight 9 major culprits that should be on every parent’s radar in 2018!

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Young Australians’ use of pornography and associations with sexual risk behaviours

Pornography use may be a public health concern. The rapid growth of the internet, smartphones and social media among young Australians means that pornography use is common and the average age at first pornography xposure
has declined in recent years.
Reports from the early and mid-2000s showed that rates of lifetime exposure to pornographwere 73–93% for adolescent boys and 11–62% for adolescent girls in Australia.

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